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Learning to Love the Hard Way

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Eventually, after the divorce, I married again. A second marriage for both of us. Finally, an adult. Two adults. I find connection, nourishment, and emotional safety that I could not have dreamt of before. We learned to love again.

Learning to Love All of Me

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For me, healing has often involved sending love from the current now reality back to aspects of myself in the past that had suffered. We do grow. Our lives do change. We do have different chapters.
Seeing light after darkness

Showing Our Brokenness

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On the deck, there are a small group of sparrows eating the birdseed that has scattered everywhere from the feeder above.  It is a fairly peaceful day after a weeklong visit from relatives. The sun is shining.  The ocean is blue.  This moment…

The Choice

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I’ve been avoiding writing this piece.  Why?  Because I have a lot of thoughts and a lot of feelings that I haven’t been ready to delve into. There is a pair of mallard ducks that come and hang out in our pool for a few months every…
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Overwhelm

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Maybe you could call it a creative block, but what it really feels like is that I'm caught between these different and enormous landscapes, like being in the middle of moving worlds and everything is changing and I don't know yet where I am…

We Are Big Beings

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Last Thursday I went to my Dr’s again.  I still haven’t kicked whatever is making me ill. While in the Dr’s office, a man was there getting vitamin C intravenously.  He had cancer.  I told him that I ‘wanted to kill’ whatever was…

I trust the universe. I trust your universe. Do you?

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I was having a conversation the other day about one of my fears.  My friend told me that he not only trusted the universe, but that he also trusted MY universe. I felt myself relax immediately. How often do we think about the big picture? How…
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What If I Decided That My Life Is My Friend?

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As I watch people struggle in their lives (and because it is not my life I often have more perspective then they do), I sometimes see what they need to let go of. Maybe they are getting sick because it is the only way they can begin to relate…

I Am In The Middle Of My Beautiful Life

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"I am in the middle of my beautiful life." I tell myself this on occasion, and it always moves me into gratitude and also opens me up to feeling. It is a way of honoring my life, with all of its complexities, flaws, joys, heartaches etc. Even…