Jennifer Lehr, MFT - Blog
Learning to Love the Hard Way
Eventually, after the divorce, I married again. A second marriage for both of us. Finally, an adult. Two adults. I find connection, nourishment, and emotional safety that I could not have dreamt of before. We learned to love again.
Healing From Trauma — It is All About Support
In this story, I share how healing trauma is a long path that weaves through aspects of our lives. And it always involves getting enough emotional support.
Yoga as a Lens into Character Structure
If you were to see character structure disorders as an image or bodily metaphor, you would see someone who hobbled along, with little freedom of movement always responding the same way to specific situations, rather than having the ability to choose their response and move freely, as a dancer would.
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The Gift of the Black Sheep
I’m part of a family that is stuck and fractured. The flatlands of black and white vision blinds us to what is below the surface, the depths. Yet, there is hope. We can learn to look more deeply.
Thanks-Giving
Unfortunately, often there is a lot of old pain between family members that is not resolved, has not been adequately talked about, understood, reconciled and gently put away. The closed doors to these places are not airtight. They cannot hold back that which needs to eventually be aired and sorted.
My Mother’s Passing
My mother died July 22nd after a yearlong battle fighting a rare and deadly cancer, mucosal melanoma. It was the day before my birthday and I wasn’t there. Perhaps she picked that day to spare me her death occurring on my birthday. We had thought she would last longer. I had a visit planned. … Read more »
How to Improve Communication Skills
Learning to reconnect We can learn how to improve communication skills and learn to reconnect with our partners. It had started as a regular day weekend day. John and Patti were taking a walk. The sun was shining. Life was good. But then, John sheepishly told Patti that he would not be working on a… Read more »
Safety & Reactivity in Relationships
How many times have we begun a relationship, full of hope, only to have it crash and burn, or one party flee? Many of us have relational injuries from the past. This often manifests as a “fear of intimacy.” Beneath this phrase, lurks not feeling safe in relationships. Our fathers may have had tempers, or… Read more »