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How to Improve Communication Skills

Posted on Monday, April 1st, 2013 at 9:56 am.

Learning to reconnect We can learn how to improve communication skills and learn to reconnect with our partners. It had started as a regular day weekend day.  John and Patti were taking a walk.  The sun was shining.  Life was good.  But then, John sheepishly told Patti that he would not be working on a…   Read more »

Standing In Your Shoes

Posted on Sunday, December 16th, 2012 at 6:47 pm.

(Names and details have been changed.) I was recently talking to Cathy, a friend of mine.  She and her girlfriend Sammy were having a tough time in their relationship and had just gotten into a fight. She explained what had happened. They were decorating the house for the holidays together, but Sammy got upset and…   Read more »

We Are Big Beings

Posted on Friday, November 2nd, 2012 at 10:10 am.

Last Thursday I went to my Dr’s again.  I still haven’t kicked whatever is making me ill. While in the Dr’s office, a man was there getting vitamin C intravenously.  He had cancer.  I told him that I ‘wanted to kill’ whatever was making me sick – the bacteria or virus that were in my…   Read more »

When to Hold and When to Fold

Posted on Saturday, January 15th, 2011 at 6:52 pm.

Recently I have had both clients and friends asking the question: “How do you know when it is time to leave a relationship?” It’s a great question, but one that is hard to answer.  It is one that I have struggled to answer at various points in my own life for both friends and myself. …   Read more »

I trust the universe. I trust your universe. Do you?

Posted on Monday, June 28th, 2010 at 10:07 pm.

I was having a conversation the other day about one of my fears.  My friend told me that he not only trusted the universe, but that he also trusted MY universe. I felt myself relax immediately. How often do we think about the big picture? How often do we trust that we are doing enough,…   Read more »

Bringing in the New

Posted on Monday, January 4th, 2010 at 8:19 am.

It is a new year. Many of us have been reflecting upon the past year, and looking forward to a different time. For many, the past year has felt frustrating, frenetic and filled with limitations. Perhaps we will find more awareness, possibility, and peace in 2010. The Sanskrit word yoga has many meanings and is…   Read more »

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Learning to Go With The Flow

Posted on Sunday, December 13th, 2009 at 2:13 pm.

There are many who try to hold on to the shore; there is no shore. The shore is crumbling. The instructions are: Push off into the middle of the river; keep your head above water; see who else is in the river with you; and celebrate”. Choquosh, Native American storyteller

How Past Trauma Impacts Current Relationships

Posted on Sunday, October 18th, 2009 at 7:36 pm.

“The more quickly either person goes from disappointment or hurt to anger, defensiveness, or emotional withdrawal and remains stuck there, the less that person is capable of having a relationship and the more the other person will have to walk on eggshells.” – Mark Goulston Why do some people have relationships that work and others…   Read more »

What If I Decided That My Life Is My Friend?

Posted on Friday, September 18th, 2009 at 7:42 pm.

As I watch people struggle in their lives (and because it is not my life I often have more perspective then they do), I sometimes see what they need to let go of. Maybe they are getting sick because it is the only way they can begin to relate to their body with real love.…   Read more »

Becoming a Playful Spirit

Posted on Thursday, June 18th, 2009 at 7:47 pm.

Have you ever watched a child play? They have fun and explore within the context of what they know. Before they can walk, they play sitting. With each developmental step, the range of their play increases. As adults, we have the ability to play in bigger and bigger ways. But sometimes we don’t. Instead, sometimes…   Read more »

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