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Standing In Your Shoes

Posted on Sunday, December 16th, 2012 at 6:47 pm.

(Names and details have been changed.) I was recently talking to Cathy, a friend of mine.  She and her girlfriend Sammy were having a tough time in their relationship and had just gotten into a fight. She explained what had happened. They were decorating the house for the holidays together, but Sammy got upset and…   Read more »

We Are Big Beings

Posted on Friday, November 2nd, 2012 at 10:10 am.

Last Thursday I went to my Dr’s again.  I still haven’t kicked whatever is making me ill. While in the Dr’s office, a man was there getting vitamin C intravenously.  He had cancer.  I told him that I ‘wanted to kill’ whatever was making me sick – the bacteria or virus that were in my…   Read more »

Inside and Out

Posted on Monday, August 6th, 2012 at 1:01 pm.

Some of the big shifts in my life occurred when I started to look at the difference between inside and out.  Examining this difference allows you to discriminate between what you think you want (ego perspective) and what your life wants of you (spiritual perspective).   Sometimes these are the same things – but not always.…   Read more »

Family

Posted on Thursday, July 5th, 2012 at 12:28 pm.

This past Saturday Mike and I were married.  Our wedding was beautiful and felt blessed.  We were surrounded by love and support.  We shared our inner feelings about each other in a visible ceremony of commitment.  A wedding is such a powerful ritual because it symbolizes family, commitment, love, and connection.  It symbolizes a new…   Read more »

You Are Only As Sick As Your Secrets

Posted on Wednesday, March 28th, 2012 at 12:48 pm.

I tend to reveal a lot about myself in my writing. Even though as a therapist, showing oneself is tricky, I made a conscious choice to do this because I knew that is how we remove stigma and heal shame. If I reveal an experience that someone else identifies with and has shame around, they…   Read more »

Accountability and Character

Posted on Wednesday, November 30th, 2011 at 6:49 pm.

I remember years ago how my father and the four of us children would go walking up the hill into the woods to look for a Christmas tree.  It was a somewhat magical time – one of those special times when we had fun with our father. The trees would be beautiful, brown branches, dark…   Read more »

The Gift of Dialogue

Posted on Friday, October 28th, 2011 at 2:14 pm.

One of the memories that has been indelibly etched within me is a fight I had with my father. I had come home from college and found our old family cat Sissy with a huge abscess on her stomach.  She was clearly very sick and going down hill fast.  I talked my mom into taking…   Read more »

Portrait of an Affair

Posted on Monday, September 19th, 2011 at 11:27 am.

I have a good friend who I deeply admire.  She is kind, thoughtful, considerate and sensitive.  She cares about the world and is involved in her community.  She is the kind of person any of us would want for a parent, a friend or a partner.  She had one of the few long-term marriages that…   Read more »

Announcing WeConcile™

Posted on Sunday, March 20th, 2011 at 12:10 pm.

Architecting Your Own Intimacy – Repairing, Rebuilding & Creating Love I have been deep in writing a new web-based and interactive program to help couples (or any two people) connect more fully and resolve conflicts, bringing harmony and peace to their relationship. This is something that I have been working on for nearly two years…   Read more »

When to Hold and When to Fold

Posted on Saturday, January 15th, 2011 at 6:52 pm.

Recently I have had both clients and friends asking the question: “How do you know when it is time to leave a relationship?” It’s a great question, but one that is hard to answer.  It is one that I have struggled to answer at various points in my own life for both friends and myself. …   Read more »

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