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Learning to Love the Hard Way

All Posts, Emotional Healing, insight and awareness, Marriage & Relationship Help, self growth, Self Reflection, Self-Help, Wounds Jennifer Lehr's Blog

Eventually, after the divorce, I married again. A second marriage for both of us. Finally, an adult. Two adults. I find connection, nourishment, and emotional safety that I could not have dreamt of before. We learned to love again.

The Numinosity of Love

All Posts, Emotional Healing, Empowerment, insight and awareness, self growth, Self Reflection, Trauma Jennifer Lehr's Blog

When we get caught, there is a reason I am caught. Watching, I wait. Will they get together? How does this keep happening? They love each other. Please. This is the power of love. I have been caught before. This time it is with Anne…

Growing into a Bigger Heart

All Posts, Emotional Healing, Marriage & Relationship Help, Self Reflection Jennifer Lehr's Blog

I witness my disappointment because I can see him slowly leaving me, and I also witness my love, for I have the honor of tending him as he slows down. I am left with a choice. I can resent my husband’s limitations, or I can be a compassionate witness and helper.

My Sense of Home

All Posts, Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Self Reflection Jennifer Lehr's Blog

My much-loved husband nearly died three weeks ago. When I imagine my life without him, I realize that there is no place to go, nothing to do that could feel okay. I feel homeless, lost and adrift. What is home, but a tender heart we connect…

Showing Our Brokenness

All Posts, Marriage & Relationship Help, Self Reflection, Self-Help Jennifer Lehr's Blog

On the deck, there are a small group of sparrows eating the birdseed that has scattered everywhere from the feeder above. It is a fairly peaceful day after a weeklong visit from relatives. The sun is shining. The ocean is blue. This moment…

Family

All Posts, Marriage & Relationship Help, Self Reflection Jennifer Lehr's Blog

This past Saturday Mike and I were married. Our wedding was beautiful and felt blessed. We were surrounded by love and support. We shared our inner feelings about each other in a visible ceremony of commitment. A wedding is such a powerful…

Markers of Change

All Posts, Self Reflection Jennifer Lehr's Blog

At approximately 4 PM on July 28th, my cat Hank was put to sleep. Over the next two days, I was at a wedding with two ceremonies. The first was a ritualized Hindu wedding for the groom’s family and the second was the traditional American…

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