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Family

Posted on Thursday, July 5th, 2012 at 12:28 pm.

This past Saturday Mike and I were married.  Our wedding was beautiful and felt blessed.  We were surrounded by love and support.  We shared our inner feelings about each other in a visible ceremony of commitment.  A wedding is such a powerful ritual because it symbolizes family, commitment, love, and connection.  It symbolizes a new…   Read more »

You Are Only As Sick As Your Secrets

Posted on Wednesday, March 28th, 2012 at 12:48 pm.

I tend to reveal a lot about myself in my writing. Even though as a therapist, showing oneself is tricky, I made a conscious choice to do this because I knew that is how we remove stigma and heal shame. If I reveal an experience that someone else identifies with and has shame around, they…   Read more »

Accountability and Character

Posted on Wednesday, November 30th, 2011 at 6:49 pm.

I remember years ago how my father and the four of us children would go walking up the hill into the woods to look for a Christmas tree.  It was a somewhat magical time – one of those special times when we had fun with our father. The trees would be beautiful, brown branches, dark…   Read more »

The Gift of Dialogue

Posted on Friday, October 28th, 2011 at 2:14 pm.

One of the memories that has been indelibly etched within me is a fight I had with my father. I had come home from college and found our old family cat Sissy with a huge abscess on her stomach.  She was clearly very sick and going down hill fast.  I talked my mom into taking…   Read more »

Portrait of an Affair

Posted on Monday, September 19th, 2011 at 11:27 am.

I have a good friend who I deeply admire.  She is kind, thoughtful, considerate and sensitive.  She cares about the world and is involved in her community.  She is the kind of person any of us would want for a parent, a friend or a partner.  She had one of the few long-term marriages that…   Read more »

Announcing WeConcile™

Posted on Sunday, March 20th, 2011 at 12:10 pm.

Architecting Your Own Intimacy – Repairing, Rebuilding & Creating Love I have been deep in writing a new web-based and interactive program to help couples (or any two people) connect more fully and resolve conflicts, bringing harmony and peace to their relationship. This is something that I have been working on for nearly two years…   Read more »

When to Hold and When to Fold

Posted on Saturday, January 15th, 2011 at 6:52 pm.

Recently I have had both clients and friends asking the question: “How do you know when it is time to leave a relationship?” It’s a great question, but one that is hard to answer.  It is one that I have struggled to answer at various points in my own life for both friends and myself. …   Read more »

Default Places

Posted on Sunday, December 5th, 2010 at 4:22 pm.

I had a hard few days, which in this case for me means that I was in workaholic mode, feeling frustrated and somewhat overwhelmed and being unrealistic about what I could and could not get done. I was pushing myself around ‘doing’ and not accepting the ‘being’ aspect of life.  Luckily, a friend stopped over…   Read more »

The Three Interdependent Dimensions of Our Relationships

Posted on Sunday, October 17th, 2010 at 6:40 pm.

(The material in this article comes from understanding gained by training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples) Working with couples effectively means you understand the three dimensions of our relationships: Attachment, emotions and cycles.  Learn about what needs to be focused on to do effective couples work, or to work on your own relationship. 1)  …   Read more »

Setting Boundaries

Posted on Friday, October 8th, 2010 at 11:30 am.

Can you set a boundary (say no) to somebody when you are not angry?  Often, we can set a boundary if we are angry, but cannot if we are not angry.  We use anger to assist us because saying no isn’t so easy (for some of us). Saying no when we are so mad we…   Read more »

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