Happy child depicting Affirmations for self love

Changing Your Inner Dialogue

Posted on Sunday, May 18th, 2008 at 8:05 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT
in All Posts, Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Self-Help, The Therapeutic Process.

Affirmations for Self Love

In order to heal depression and anxiety, as well as become emotionally healthy overall, it is important to look at your inner dialogue. How are you talking to yourself; what messages are you giving yourself? Instead of using affirmations for self love, do you tell yourself that you cannot disappoint others? That you have to be perfect so nobody else gets upset? Do you tell yourself that you are stupid, or bad, or incompetent? Do you tell yourself that you are not good enough?

If so, you are hurting yourself and treating yourself with disrespect. You may feel like that cartoon character with the black cloud that follows him everywhere.

Becoming aware of our inner dialogue is the first step. Once you are aware of your inner dialogue, try imagining that you are talking this way to a child that you love. What do you imagine would happen to this child? Then picture yourself at a young age. Would you want to be talked to this way? Ask yourself what the “little you” really needs to hear. These are affirmations for self love.


I love you no matter what.

You are safe.

You don’t’ have to take care of me. I will take care of you.

You are amazing. 

You are precious. 

What you think and feel is important. 


Whatever it is, start changing talking to yourself with love and kindness instead of mistreating yourself. As you do this, you are starting to create a better relationship with yourself. You are beginning to claim the power to change your life and your feelings about yourself. You are the most important person in your life. Treat yourself that way.

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One response to “Changing Your Inner Dialogue”

  1. Jane says:

    I wish it were so easy.

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