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When Wounds Collide

Posted on Tuesday, April 6th, 2010 at 2:55 am by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

When wounds collide, we suffer and we don’t feel safe. Our partner becomes somebody we no longer trust. It is one of the most painful aspects of a relationship. When we are scared, we act in ways that do not help our relationships. When we feel safe, our relationships can blossom. Do you remember O’Henry’s…   Read more »

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Psychological Health

Posted on Sunday, March 7th, 2010 at 4:42 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

Updated June 23, 2020 Looking Inward – Making Sense of Ourselves Pain can cause us to seek psychological health I witness a lot of pain in my work. People don’t come to see me because everything in their lives is working. They come to see me because something isn’t working because they are in pain.…   Read more »

How Past Trauma Impacts Current Relationships

Posted on Sunday, October 18th, 2009 at 7:36 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

“The more quickly either person goes from disappointment or hurt to anger, defensiveness, or emotional withdrawal and remains stuck there, the less that person is capable of having a relationship and the more the other person will have to walk on eggshells.” – Mark Goulston Why do some people have relationships that work and others…   Read more »

What If I Decided That My Life Is My Friend?

Posted on Friday, September 18th, 2009 at 7:42 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

As I watch people struggle in their lives (and because it is not my life I often have more perspective then they do), I sometimes see what they need to let go of. Maybe they are getting sick because it is the only way they can begin to relate to their body with real love.…   Read more »

Becoming a Playful Spirit

Posted on Thursday, June 18th, 2009 at 7:47 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

Have you ever watched a child play? They have fun and explore within the context of what they know. Before they can walk, they play sitting. With each developmental step, the range of their play increases. As adults, we have the ability to play in bigger and bigger ways. But sometimes we don’t. Instead, sometimes…   Read more »

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Are You Self Empowered? Anatomy of an Emotional Victim

Posted on Wednesday, March 18th, 2009 at 7:50 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

Do you have a relationship with somebody who does not take responsibility for his or her own behavior? How is this impacting you? What “survival” techniques have you developed? It might be time to change them.

Emotional Courage

Posted on Thursday, December 18th, 2008 at 7:55 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

How do we change the direction of our lives? Despite our histories, why do some people create fulfilling lives for themselves while others do not? As a therapist, and as a person who has made her life about self-transformation and then later, the transformation of others, this is easy to see. But for many people,…   Read more »

Safety & Reactivity in Relationships

Posted on Thursday, September 18th, 2008 at 8:00 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

How many times have we begun a relationship, full of hope, only to have it crash and burn, or one party flee? Many of us have relational injuries from the past. This often manifests as a “fear of intimacy.” Beneath this phrase, lurks not feeling safe in relationships. Our fathers may have had tempers, or…   Read more »

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Changing Your Inner Dialogue

Posted on Sunday, May 18th, 2008 at 8:05 pm by Jennifer Lehr MFT.

Affirmations for Self Love In order to heal depression and anxiety, as well as become emotionally healthy overall, it is important to look at your inner dialogue. How are you talking to yourself; what messages are you giving yourself? Instead of using affirmations for self love, do you tell yourself that you cannot disappoint others?…   Read more »

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