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Growing Yourself, Growing Your Relationship, Growing Your Life
A friend once told me that she was not creative. I remember the moment clearly, because I did a double take and started to try to convince her of her error in perception immediately. How could she believe that about herself? And recently, with a client, I had some ‘soul collage cards’ that I had… Read more »
Announcing WeConcile™
Architecting Your Own Intimacy – Repairing, Rebuilding & Creating Love I have been deep in writing a new web-based and interactive program to help couples (or any two people) connect more fully and resolve conflicts, bringing harmony and peace to their relationship. This is something that I have been working on for nearly two years… Read more »
When to Hold and When to Fold
Recently I have had both clients and friends asking the question: “How do you know when it is time to leave a relationship?” It’s a great question, but one that is hard to answer. It is one that I have struggled to answer at various points in my own life for both friends and myself. … Read more »
Emotional Release Guided Meditation
Guided Meditation (Audio) to accompany “Emotions and Emotional Release“. Subscribe to the Healing Tips Podcast with iTunes The podcast for this blog posting is on the bottom of the previous blog post Emotions and Emotional Release.
Emotions and Emotional Release
Emotions are intense. They rock us. We have to deal with them. Someone says something the wrong way, or we are in a difficult situation and all of a sudden we might find ourselves in a fury, or in deep grief, or perhaps an awful sense of embarrassment and shame as if we are ‘bad’. … Read more »
The Three Interdependent Dimensions of Our Relationships
(The material in this article comes from understanding gained by training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples) Working with couples effectively means you understand the three dimensions of our relationships: Attachment, emotions and cycles. Learn about what needs to be focused on to do effective couples work, or to work on your own relationship. 1) … Read more »
Setting Boundaries
Can you set a boundary (say no) to somebody when you are not angry? Often, we can set a boundary if we are angry, but cannot if we are not angry. We use anger to assist us because saying no isn’t so easy (for some of us). Saying no when we are so mad we… Read more »
Relationships: The New Challenge in Self Mastery
One of the things I enjoy doing is reading a book with new perspectives and then applying those ideas to my own field. I just finished reading Daniel Pink’s book Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us. It’s one of those books that allow us to see the world differently. Of the many ideas… Read more »
Shouldn’t – Be Careful
Sometimes we stand at the foot of a task and get stuck because we are telling ourselves that we shouldn’t have to do this thing. The task is there. There is no way around it. We have a choice. Our choice is to sit there, stuck, or to tackle the task. This is a choice… Read more »
Navigating Dreams of Love
I watched Alice in Wonderland recently. As Alice was questioning the social customs and values of her time, she was advised to “follow the path,” to which she replied, “I make the path.” Alice spoke to the importance of knowing ourselves, of holding onto our dreams and fighting our demons in the process. Dreams are… Read more »
The Magic Cake
