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The Practice of Gratitude is a Choice

Posted on Friday, February 3rd, 2012 at 2:59 pm.

Post updated June 6th, 2020 What is the definition of gratitude? Gratitude is the emotion of being thankful. If we are thankful, we appreciate and are in connection with the thing we are grateful for. This can be something outside ourselves, like the amazing redwoods in the picture above. Or it can be for an…   Read more »

Accountability and Character

Posted on Wednesday, November 30th, 2011 at 6:49 pm.

I remember years ago how my father and the four of us children would go walking up the hill into the woods to look for a Christmas tree.  It was a somewhat magical time – one of those special times when we had fun with our father. The trees would be beautiful, brown branches, dark…   Read more »

Portrait of an Affair

Posted on Monday, September 19th, 2011 at 11:27 am.

I have a good friend who I deeply admire.  She is kind, thoughtful, considerate and sensitive.  She cares about the world and is involved in her community.  She is the kind of person any of us would want for a parent, a friend or a partner.  She had one of the few long-term marriages that…   Read more »

Growing Yourself, Growing Your Relationship, Growing Your Life

Posted on Monday, May 9th, 2011 at 12:03 pm.

A friend once told me that she was not creative.  I remember the moment clearly, because I did a double take and started to try to convince her of her error in perception immediately.  How could she believe that about herself?  And recently, with a client, I had some ‘soul collage cards’ that I had…   Read more »

Announcing WeConcile™

Posted on Sunday, March 20th, 2011 at 12:10 pm.

Architecting Your Own Intimacy – Repairing, Rebuilding & Creating Love I have been deep in writing a new web-based and interactive program to help couples (or any two people) connect more fully and resolve conflicts, bringing harmony and peace to their relationship. This is something that I have been working on for nearly two years…   Read more »

When to Hold and When to Fold

Posted on Saturday, January 15th, 2011 at 6:52 pm.

Recently I have had both clients and friends asking the question: “How do you know when it is time to leave a relationship?” It’s a great question, but one that is hard to answer.  It is one that I have struggled to answer at various points in my own life for both friends and myself. …   Read more »

Emotional Release Guided Meditation

Posted on Tuesday, November 9th, 2010 at 3:15 pm.

Guided Meditation (Audio) to accompany “Emotions and Emotional Release“. Subscribe to the Healing Tips Podcast with iTunes The podcast for this blog posting is on the bottom of the previous blog post Emotions and Emotional Release.

Emotions and Emotional Release

Posted on Friday, November 5th, 2010 at 7:18 pm.

Emotions are intense.  They rock us.  We have to deal with them. Someone says something the wrong way, or we are in a difficult situation and all of a sudden we might find ourselves in a fury, or in deep grief, or perhaps an awful sense of embarrassment and shame as if we are ‘bad’. …   Read more »

The Three Interdependent Dimensions of Our Relationships

Posted on Sunday, October 17th, 2010 at 6:40 pm.

(The material in this article comes from understanding gained by training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples) Working with couples effectively means you understand the three dimensions of our relationships: Attachment, emotions and cycles.  Learn about what needs to be focused on to do effective couples work, or to work on your own relationship. 1)  …   Read more »

Setting Boundaries

Posted on Friday, October 8th, 2010 at 11:30 am.

Can you set a boundary (say no) to somebody when you are not angry?  Often, we can set a boundary if we are angry, but cannot if we are not angry.  We use anger to assist us because saying no isn’t so easy (for some of us). Saying no when we are so mad we…   Read more »

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