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When to Hold and When to Fold

Posted on Saturday, January 15th, 2011 at 6:52 pm.

Recently I have had both clients and friends asking the question: “How do you know when it is time to leave a relationship?” It’s a great question, but one that is hard to answer.  It is one that I have struggled to answer at various points in my own life for both friends and myself. …   Read more »

I trust the universe. I trust your universe. Do you?

Posted on Monday, June 28th, 2010 at 10:07 pm.

I was having a conversation the other day about one of my fears.  My friend told me that he not only trusted the universe, but that he also trusted MY universe. I felt myself relax immediately. How often do we think about the big picture? How often do we trust that we are doing enough,…   Read more »

Bringing in the New

Posted on Monday, January 4th, 2010 at 8:19 am.

It is a new year. Many of us have been reflecting upon the past year, and looking forward to a different time. For many, the past year has felt frustrating, frenetic and filled with limitations. Perhaps we will find more awareness, possibility, and peace in 2010. The Sanskrit word yoga has many meanings and is…   Read more »

Surrender into Support

Posted on Sunday, December 13th, 2009 at 2:13 pm.

“The elders have sent me to you today to tell you that NOW is like a great rushing river. And this great rushing river will be experienced in many ways. There are many who try to hold on to the shore; there is no shore. The shore is crumbling. The instructions are: Push off into…   Read more »

How Past Trauma Impacts Current Relationships

Posted on Sunday, October 18th, 2009 at 7:36 pm.

“The more quickly either person goes from disappointment or hurt to anger, defensiveness, or emotional withdrawal and remains stuck there, the less that person is capable of having a relationship and the more the other person will have to walk on eggshells.” – Mark Goulston Why do some people have relationships that work and others…   Read more »

What If I Decided That My Life Is My Friend?

Posted on Friday, September 18th, 2009 at 7:42 pm.

As I watch people struggle in their lives (and because it is not my life I often have more perspective then they do), I sometimes see what they need to let go of. Maybe they are getting sick because it is the only way they can begin to relate to their body with real love.…   Read more »

Becoming a Playful Spirit

Posted on Thursday, June 18th, 2009 at 7:47 pm.

Have you ever watched a child play? They have fun and explore within the context of what they know. Before they can walk, they play sitting. With each developmental step, the range of their play increases. As adults, we have the ability to play in bigger and bigger ways. But sometimes we don’t. Instead, sometimes…   Read more »

How To Stop Those Repetitive Fights

Posted on Monday, May 18th, 2009 at 7:47 pm.

George had been very upset about the actions of an ex friend. Susan could feel his pain and asked him if there was anything that she could do to make him feel better. George replied, “I could think of something”. Susan retorted, “I wasn’t talking about sex”. George responded, “So what’s new?” Susan feeling criticized,…   Read more »

Becoming Psychologically Healthy

Posted on Wednesday, February 18th, 2009 at 7:52 pm.

We sometimes believe that if we are “good” people, good things will happen to us. This is not entirely true. While some people are intrinsically better at certain skills such as making money, having relationships that work, or making art than others, it has nothing to do with their inherent worth. Instead, it has to…   Read more »

Getting Unstuck

Posted on Tuesday, November 18th, 2008 at 7:58 pm.

Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a painful or unsatisfying situation: it could be a relationship, a job, a pattern of behavior, or something else. Maybe I am in love with somebody who is not available, or abusive, but I feel that I need them and I cannot leave. Maybe I am stuck in a…   Read more »

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