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Please Forgive Me. Thank You.

Posted on Sunday, July 12th, 2015 at 7:38 am.

As time seems to quicken, and our experiences intensify, and as I’ve personally experienced more loss and death in my life, I find myself seeking more peace. As I let go of more of the external – outcomes and things – I find myself needing to focus on what I find most important – releasing…   Read more »

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Toughing It Out

Posted on Monday, February 3rd, 2014 at 11:13 am.

We all have emotional survival strategies that do not work. A common one is ‘going it alone,’ ‘sucking it up,’ or ‘toughing it out.’ We put our heads down, close our eyes and push forward, as if we are in a blizzard miles from home, and no one is with us. We aren’t even aware…   Read more »

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How Unspoken (And Unanswered) Needs Sabotage A Relationship.

Posted on Monday, December 2nd, 2013 at 3:25 pm.

June: I don’t like our gardener. I don’t like how he trimmed the roses. I don’t think he did a good job on the grass. I don’t like… What is going on here? – Disguised and unspoken feelings. (I feel uncomfortable; I want you to hear my discomfort. I want to know that you will…   Read more »

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Learning to Reconnect

Posted on Monday, April 1st, 2013 at 9:56 am.

It had started like a regular day weekend day.  John and Patti were taking a walk.  The sun was shining.  Life was good.  But then, John sheepishly told Patti that he would not be working on a project they had told Patti he was going to do, and that had been planned for that weekend. …   Read more »

Standing In Your Shoes

Posted on Sunday, December 16th, 2012 at 6:47 pm.

(Names and details have been changed.) I was recently talking to Cathy, a friend of mine.  She and her girlfriend Sammy were having a tough time in their relationship and had just gotten into a fight. She explained what had happened. They were decorating the house for the holidays together, but Sammy got upset and…   Read more »

Accepting Life’s Challenges

Posted on Sunday, May 6th, 2012 at 6:20 pm.

I am in a chapter of my life where I am sifting, sorting and reorganizing who I am. Sometimes I see the more expansive parts of myself – the parts that can hold a goal over along period of time and work towards them without much coming back in return, or the parts that have…   Read more »

You Are Only As Sick As Your Secrets

Posted on Wednesday, March 28th, 2012 at 12:48 pm.

I tend to reveal a lot about myself in my writing. Even though as a therapist, showing oneself is tricky, I made a conscious choice to do this because I knew that is how we remove stigma and heal shame. If I reveal an experience that someone else identifies with and has shame around, they…   Read more »

Choosing Gratitude

Posted on Friday, February 3rd, 2012 at 2:59 pm.

I had a session with one of my favorite healers, Ellen Kaufman Dosick (www.soulmemorydiscovery.com) the other day – mainly because I wanted to ‘drop’ an aspect of myself that was dragging me down and step into a more empowered place.  I was finding myself getting upset about some events and situations that were obviously not…   Read more »

Accountability and Character

Accountability and Character

Posted on Wednesday, November 30th, 2011 at 6:49 pm.

I remember years ago how my father and the four of us children would go walking up the hill into the woods to look for a Christmas tree.  It was a somewhat magical time – one of those special times when we had fun with our father. The trees would be beautiful, brown branches, dark…   Read more »

Portrait of an Affair

Posted on Monday, September 19th, 2011 at 11:27 am.

I have a good friend who I deeply admire.  She is kind, thoughtful, considerate and sensitive.  She cares about the world and is involved in her community.  She is the kind of person any of us would want for a parent, a friend or a partner.  She had one of the few long-term marriages that…   Read more »

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